Book – I was excited for the recent release of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone: A Therapist, Her Therapist & Our Lives Revealed by Lori Gottlieb and am happy to report that the book exceeded my expectations.
Lori explores her personal experiences from the point of view of as therapist and patient. The concept of therapists seeking therapy for themselves was one I had never before considered. This prompted me to question how we, as a society view therapists. Maybe You Should Talk to Someone is insightful, deep, thought-provoking and shows therapists in a different light. At the base we are all human beings, but as a people who pay others to provide a service, she demonstrates a unique lens in which to view therapists. Lori also shares stories about the work she did with patients, which includes humorous narration when describing her true feelings of an especially difficult patient. I find the therapist-patient relationship particularly fascinating and enjoyed reading all of the experiences Lori had to share.
She begins the book leading up to a devastatingly unexpected breakup, which ultimately leads her to seek out a therapist when she hits the breaking point. The order of events are easy to follow, as she switched between the present and past narratives. Learning about her career path and the events that ultimately led her to become a therapist, is a journey of seeking and discovery we may all relate to. Her story on this is enlightening. Lori is a relatable author and readers will find at least one aspect to connect with in Maybe You Should Talk to Someone.
Book List – There is a variety of self-help books concerning mental health. Memoirs are my favorite genre, featuring real stories from real people who share their raw experiences with mental illness. The following books explore anxiety through memoirs.
Okay Fine Whatever: The Year I Went From Being Afraid of Everything to Only Being Afraid of Most Things by Courtenay Hameister
In her memoir of goals, the author challenges herself to attack her fears face to face – an admirable task to take on, in a year. I was particularly interested in the chapter on using a Sensory Deprivation “Float” Tank – an adventurous activity, especially for the claustrophobic. Hameister’s writing can come across as crude, due to her bluntness of storytelling, but I enjoyed how she narrated her inner monologue with each new experience. The book concentrates on fear, which I feel is strongly related to anxiety and the fear that prevents us from venturing into new and terrifying futures and endeavors.
Little Panic : Dispatches From an Anxious Life by Amanda Stern
The author’s memoir details her childhood growing up with anxiety and worry. I enjoyed reading of Amanda’s experiences, but also found them stress-inducing. Plagued by daily panic that her mother will suddenly die, or forget her own daughter exists, Stern lives in constant fear that everyone she loves might suddenly leave her. As a child of divorce, she is also caught between two conflicting worlds: that of the bohemian, free-spirited life with her mother and the strict, cold sterile environment with her father. I appreciate her honest and detailed narration, growing up a child fearing that her whole world could fall apart in an instant.
Other related books include: On Edge: A Journey Through Anxiety by Andrea Petersen, and Hi Anxiety: Life With a Bad Case of Nerves by Kat Kinsman.
Film – I’m not normally one for the superhero action films, but I made an exception for the 2018 release Venom. First, it features the hunky Tom Hardy as the lead, which is always a valid reason to see a film. Second, the visualization of Venom himself looked amazing in the trailers, encompassing everything I so love about creature features and sci-fi stories.
Journalist Eddie Brock knows that something sinister is going on at Life Foundation, and he’ll stop at nothing to find out what Carlton Drake is hiding in his laboratory behind closed doors. Disaster strikes, and Eddie suddenly finds himself host to a symbiotic alien, Venom. With his powerful and demanding alter ego, Eddie continues searching for answers, fighting for his own survival. Carlton Drake is a far more dangerous villain than Eddie could have ever imagined, and he must join forces with Venom to try to save the world. With a truly unexpected superhero, amazing depiction of venom, and humor a bit reminiscent of Deadpool, I highly recommend this film. The bond forged between Eddie and Venom is dynamic, a real treat to see.
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TV Series – What happens after death? Do you turn to dust, enter the spirit world, or join the realms of Heaven or Hell? The Good Place puts a unique spin on the ol’ “What happens to us when we die,” question.
So you’re dead. What now? Enter the almighty architect and faithful guide to your afterlife, Michael. He’s here to help your transition from life on earth to death in the Good Place. You’ve made it into Heaven! Good for you! For Eleanor Shellstrop, this reality is hard to believe. She was pretty much the worst kind of person on Earth–self-centered, greedy, and has never done a nice thing for anyone in her life. She’s pretty sure there’s been some mistake and any second she’ll be dragged down to the Bad Place. She’s terrified Michael will realize his error. In the Good Place, you are paired with your soulmate, and that’s how Eleanor meets Chidi, philosophy and moral professor. They couldn’t be more different, but Chidi agrees to help Eleanor learn to be “good.” With fellow couple, Tahani and silent monk Jianyu, the four delve into what it means to be good.
One of my favorite aspects of the show is that residents of the Good Place are rendered incapable of using curse words. Eleanor has quite the risque vocabulary, which is censored and ends up saying “fork” often. Janet is by far my favorite character. Like a humanized robot version of Siri or Alexa, Janet is a personal assistant to each resident of the Good Place. Simply say “Janet,” and she appears! I love the show’s premise and incredible cast. It’s hilarious, full of drama, and leaves us feeling good. Check out Season 1 and 2 of The Good Place today!
Book – A sweet romance, All I Want For Christmas is a Cowboy by Jessica Clare is a wonderfully cozy romance of two strangers who meet by chance during the holiday season. Cassandra needs to escape her life for the holidays. Her boss’s boyfriend has been harassing her since she met him and it seems like there’s no escape in sight. The solution? A Christmas in solitude spent alone at her parents’ cabin. Driving through a snowstorm, Cassandra flies off course in an accident.
Eli is a real cowboy, living alone on his ranch tending to the cows and his dogs. He’s content with his life the way it is, and is happy to spend the holiday in his reclusive home. Ready for another Christmas in solitude, Eli’s plans are drastically altered when he finds an injured woman stranded in the blizzard from a car accident. As any gentleman would do, Eli takes her to his home and tends to her wounds. But when Cassandra awakens, she has no memory of who she is, or any reminder of her life before the accident. As the two learn to cohabit the Christmas season together, Cassandra’s amnesia becomes less of problem, as they grow closer. Separated from the chaos of her previous life, Cassandra thinks maybe this is her Christmas wish come true. But life always seems to get in the way of things.
Book – In As You Wish, author Chelsea Sedoti crafts a novel about the power of wishing. In the small, boring town of Madison, the residents have a secret. It is a secret they work hard to keep hidden from the prying eyes of the rest of the world, lest they be made a freak attraction.
In Madison, everybody gets a wish—one wish that will come true. On your eighteenth birthday, you are led to the cave of wishes where the deed is done. If it sounds too good to be true, that’s because it is. The residents spend their youth conjuring up the perfect wish–to be the most beautiful, the best sportsman, to have the unconditional love and devotion of their chosen mate. Many have made wishes that they will regret for the rest of their lives. But there are no takebacksies. No wish can be undone.
For 17 year old, Eldon, his upcoming wish is a source of stress and despair. He fails to relate to the giddy excitement of his fellow classmates and friends as their wishing days also draw closer. He is pressured constantly by his mother to do the right thing, to make a wish that will help his family and support those he loves. What Eldon desires more than anything is to just ignore the whole tradition altogether and never make his wish. Through the stories of other wishers and their mistakes, Eldon tries to understand how to make the best decision, a decision that could change his entire life for better or worse. He’ll do anything he can to not make the same mistakes as those around him.
Book – 30 Before 30: How I Made a Mess of my 20s, and You Can Too by Marina Shifrin is a fantastic read. Marina details her journey attempting to and succeeding in achieving 30 goals before turning 30 years old. Some goals were bigger: “Getting a Dog”, “Visit Russia”, and “Live in a Different Country”, while others were easier to accomplish: “Eating a Meal Alone” and “Take a City Bus Tour.” For any millennial working through their mid 20s, or for any age seeking to create their own bucket list, this book is a fun beacon of light in all the stresses adulthood can bring.
I was so inspired by Marina’s list that I decided to create my own! I will admit I stole some of her goals, specifically “Getting a Dog”, “Eating a Meal Alone”, but some of my other goals include: “Baking an Obscene amount of French Macarons” (Because why not?) and “Taking a Roadtrip Through the 6 States Most Abundant in Cacti” (and of course buying a ton of new houseplants along the way). Because of the format of the book, it was easy to browse for chapters that were most relatable to me, but I still found myself reading through each section. Marina’s humor is a great addition to this memoir, and I really enjoyed her writing style. Her parents emigrated from Russia and it was interesting to see how that heritage has influenced Marina in her life and partaking of the 30 before 30 project, especially in her goal to travel to Russia. An easy but fun read for anyone!
Books – As someone who’s recently become cactus-obsessed, our library’s collection of related gardening books has been a life-saver. I logically anticipated a plant massacre, due to my lack of green thumb. My first 3 cacti (who survived a rocky road trip from California to Illinois) have flourished, and I currently have 17 cacti and succulents. I’m a bit of an addict. The following books helped me learn how to properly care for these often finicky plants, and I recommend them to any cacti newbies.
Happy Cactus : Cacti, Succulents, and More by John Pilbeam
This is my favorite book of the bunch. The title is adorable; don’t we all want our cacti to be happy? I love love, LOVE this book. The photos, pictures, and huge variety of plants included in its pages is spectacular. Each plant has its own spread detailing physical characteristics, watering, soil, temperament, and vital statistics galore! It’s a great read to showcase a lot of the great varieties of cacti and succulents out there, and gave me inspiration for future purchases.
How to Train Your Cactus : A Guide to Raising Well-behaved Succulents by Tonwen Jones
A very cute book with beautiful illustrations. I also love this title because I feel like I do have to train my plants in a sense. I have to train them to accept the light they are provided, and be friendly with all of their many plant friends in my collection. This book details each plant with brief description and then delves into “training notes.”
How to Window Box : Small-space Plants to Grow Indoors or Out by Chantal Aida Gordon
This book is great for those who don’t have a lot of space or light to properly care for plants. Window boxing is a fun and crafty way to still have the garden you’ve always wanted! If nothing else, the photos alone are Instagram worthy and great inspiration!
Books – Tattoos can be intimidating, choosing a design that’s going to be ingrained on your skin for years and years to come; it’s more than a little scary, considering the involvement of stabbing needles. Welcome to the world of DIY temporary tattooing! No pain involved, easy to remove, but still a way to showcase your creativity in body art. Temporary tattoos remind me of childhood, picking out a fun design, perhaps a pirate, or festive holiday image. Now, there are so many more options in temporary tattooing for all ages, many conveniently found in the following books!
They both include templates in the back that you can scan to a computer and use to to create your own tattoos via special transfer paper. It’s just like the tattoos I used when I was younger! They recommend websites and different types of tattoo transfer paper to buy, and have a lot of good recommendations for the application and care of your temporary works of art.
With so many different types of mediums and application, there’s something for everyone. Some are only meant for a night, a fun party costume that isn’t going to keep its composure for an extended period. Then there are longer lasting art techniques like Henna, and the transfer printed tattoos. I’ve experimented with henna before, both on the skin and as a natural hair dye. It’s tricky to pipe out the intricate designs, but after allowing the henna to dry on your skin and washing it off, it’s amazing to enjoy the art as it lasts.
Book – As a lover of all things sweet, Year of No Sugar by Eve Schaub sounded like the worst thing imaginable. A whole year? No sugar!? How awful! Once I got over my initial shock, however, I immediately grabbed the book and started reading.
Eve was inspired to start her Year of No sugar project after reading books by obesity and sugar experts, including Dr. Robert Lustig. Though Eve and her family led a relatively healthy lifestyle, she soon discovered sugar was in nearly everything they ate. And so the project began. The first few chapters introduce the planning of the project, as Eve consulted with her husband and two daughters on how the year would run out. I loved the idea of doing this project as a family, having that support system to get through it together. I can imagine the kids dismay, learning how their lives would be affected, and dealing with social pressures outside of the home with all things sugary and sweet. Instead of going completely cold turkey, Eve and her husband finally decided on the 1 Dessert a Month rule. Also, the two daughters could make their own decisions when it came to offerings of sweets at school, sleepovers, and other functions, as long as they were open to their parents when they did choose to indulge.
Eve is an honest, funny, and wonderful writer. She managed to mix science with her own experiences without making my brain explode. I appreciated her point of view, with the added input of her husband and children as they embarked on a journey not for the faint of heart. Check out Eve Schaub’s newest memoir, Year of No Clutter. One book at a time, Eve is conquering my biggest vices.